Divorce can be an overwhelming experience. If you’ve never been through a divorce before, you will likely have a lot of questions. The processes involved are understandably unfamiliar for people who have never been through a divorce. As a trusted divorce lawyer in Tempe and the surrounding areas, The Law Office of Ronald Kossack is here to make things less stressful. Divorce is difficult enough without having to navigate the complex world of legal issues on your own. Because of this, you want a divorce lawyer who understands your needs and can help you reach the outcomes you desire. We serve clients throughout Phoenix, Scottsdale, Chandler, Mesa, and Tempe — so you can count on us being there to help. 

One of the ways that we can help make the realities of divorce more manageable is by exploring common myths that revolve around divorce. Because divorce is a complicated and often emotionally-charged process, there has been a large amount of myths and misunderstandings that have popped up around it. It doesn’t help that movies and television shows love to portray divorce law and divorce lawyers in such sensationalist and unrealistic ways. All of this lends itself to a common practice that is too often misunderstood. There are so many misunderstandings, in fact, that we decided to break this into a two-part blog series. The myths simply couldn’t be contained to a single blog post.

On that note, it’s time for The Law Office of Ronald Kossack to start exploring some of these myths. And when you’re done reading about all these myths, be sure to contact us for all of your family law needs.

Myth #1: Visitation Can Be Denied If Ex Doesn’t Pay Child Support

There’s this idea out there that if your ex doesn’t pay child support, then they can be denied visitation rights with their children. While it’s true that there are important legal steps you can take to ensure that your ex is paying child support (a good reason to have a trustworthy divorce lawyer), it’s simply not the case that the right to see their children can be leveraged in this way. Access to children and parenting time are unrelated to the demands of child support. There are plenty of factors that could lead to being denied visitation rights, but this is not one of them.

Myth #2: You Can Only Get Divorced In The State You Were Married

Have you heard that the state you get married in is the only state where you can get a divorce? This is a common notion, but it’s not based in reality. This would add an extra level of bureaucratic pain in a world where people move for a huge range of reasons. If you moved to Alaska after getting married in Arizona, it wouldn’t be a good situation if you had to travel all that way for your divorce proceedings. Luckily, you can get divorced in whichever state you’re living in — provided you satisfy that state’s residency requirements for filing for divorce. Indeed, there are situations where divorces can be granted in states where you don’t reside.

Myth #3: Most Divorces Take Place In Reno Or Vegas

An offshoot of Myth #2 is that a large number of people travel to places like Reno or Las Vegas for their divorces. It might come as a surprise, then, to learn that “migratory divorces” are actually quite uncommon — even when it comes to Nevada. In fact, Nevada only makes up about 3% of all divorces for the country. There are lots of stories of people seeking divorces from these areas (sometimes known as “divorce mills”), but the reality is that they’re not as common as many people believe.

Myth #4: Children Get To Choose Who They Live With

This is a myth that gained steam because of portrayals in pop culture. You might even picture two parents on opposite sides of the courtroom, each calling to their child while the judge looks to see who will be the chosen one. This is pure fantasy. The reality of the situation is that judges will take into consideration the preferences of the child (or children), but this is just one factor among many when deciding the nature of custody. In the end, the judge will be making decisions that are in the best interest of the children, even if that does conflict with their preferences.

Myth #5: Having Children Will Prevent Divorce

This myth can be very damaging to people’s relationships. It can be very scary if a marriage seems to be suffering or even falling apart. It’s understandable that people would be tempted to take drastic or impulsive steps to save a marriage. The idea that having kids will solve all of the problems that have cropped up in a marriage — while understandable — is simply untrue. In fact, the majority of divorcing couples have children. On top of that, having children can introduce a whole host of new stressors and responsibility, which, in the long run, might only underscore problem areas of a marriage.

Still, some argue that having children will allow a couple to have a shared focus and for mutual love to come out. It’s possible that this may be the case, though it’s probably not a good sign if a married couple is counting on this to prevent all the issues that are bringing up divorce in the first place. In any event, in recent years the proportion of divorcing couples with children has been rising.

Stay Tuned…

This has been the first part of a two-part blog series exploring common myths around divorce. Even a two-part series will fail to do justice to the complexities of divorce, but be sure to stay informed by reading our blog. The Law Office of Ronald Kossack will provide expert divorce lawyers in Tempe who will always have your best interests in the foreground. When you need a divorce lawyer in Tempe, The Law Office of Ronald Kossack is just what you’re looking for. Contact us today for a free consultation.