Divorce affects millions of people every year. Many of those who divorce have children in the picture that must be thought of and taken care of during the process and beyond. One of the most traumatic experiences a child can go through is to see their parents fall out of love and divorce. It is important that divorcing couples keep their cool during the divorce process. Here are several tips to consider while navigating the divorce process with children.

Think Long Term

One of the best things parents can do during the divorce process is to think long term. Thinking long term allows a person to get past minor flaws the other parent may have. Studies have shown it is much better for kids when both parents are involved in their life. If you have the urge to talk bad about the other parent, just remember you could be harming your children and warping their view of their other parent in the process as well. There are many people that have said spoken badly about the other parents and later regretted it. Take the divorce process in with a long term mentality and it should help you take the high road.


Another difficult part of divorce is learning to get over what the other person did to you. There are many people that struggle with this their entire life. They let something that the other parent did in the past affect their thoughts about them for the rest of their life. When children are involved, it is best if you learn to forgive the other party so you can be civil and respectful. Children are smart and perceptive and they will pick up on bad vibes between parents. Always start with yourself when you are having to work through a divorce. You may find out that there is a lot more to work on than you realize.

Never Fight In Front of Them

Perhaps the most important piece of advice when dealing with kids in a divorce is to never fight in front of them. There are going to be times when you disagree with the other parent and their decisions. However, it is always best to take the high road and never argue with the other parent in front of the kids. Arguing will always create more harm than good. Always think of your kids first and how your actions affect them.

At the Law Office of Ronald L. Kossack, we provide a free initial consultation to discuss your divorce and how we can be of assistance. To speak with a Tempe divorce lawyer about your legal matter, contact us online or call 480-345-2652.