Kids and Divorce
Each year, thousands of kids experience the stress of divorce. Their individual reactions depend on their personality, age, and the particular circumstances of the separation and process of divorce. Regardless of how smooth, though, every divorce will have an effect on the kids involved. Many times the initial reaction is one of sadness, shock, frustration, anger, and/or worry. Kids, though, can also come out of it better able to cope with stress, and many grow up to become more flexible, tolerant young adults.
Tips for the Difficult Times
The greatest ways parents can help their kids through this difficult time are:
- Keep visible conflict, heated discussions, and legal talk away from the kids. Divorce is already stressful and confusing for children. Don’t add the burden of legal talk, arguments and anger to their already difficult situation.
- Minimize the disruptions to kids’ daily routines. Children need structure. One of the quickest routes to a breakdown with your kid, is to disrupt their daily routine, causing a feeling of instability.
- Confine negativity and blame about each other to private therapy sessions or conversations with friends outside the home. Remember that, while you may be at odds with your spouse, your child most likely is not. Refrain from talking negatively about your spouse to your child.
- Keep each parent involved in the kids’ lives. One of the difficulties with divorce is the struggle with schedules. Work hard to keep both parents attending school recitals, games and major events in the child’s life.
Contact a Family Law Attorney Today Since 1993, the law office of Ronald L. Kossack have helped parents to reach important decisions regarding the upbringing of their children. If you and your spouse are unable to agree on decision making authority (custody) or parenting time, the court will need to make a determination based on your child’s best interests. During contested hearings, we may hire mental health professionals and parenting coordinators, if necessary, to build and strengthen your case for child custody. We will do all we can to work toward a positive result for you. To speak with a Tempe child custody lawyer contact us online or by calling 480-345-2652.