It was tough being a single mom. It was tough being in a divorce with children. Very, very hard. – Melissa Etheridge Children of divorcing parents typically have many questions. As you as the parent prepare to tell your children about your divorce, take a moment to consider their personality styles and whether they are likely to ask questions directly, or whether you will need to anticipate the types of questions they will have, even reading in between the lines. Regardless, being able to share concrete details will be the key in easing your children’s anxieties about what is happening. To better prepare yourself, read the following list of commonly asked questions. Remember, many of your children’s initial questions will be focused on themselves and how the divorce will affect them. Most likely, they’ll want to know:

  • Where am I going to live?
  • Where’s Mommy going to live?
  • Where’s Daddy going to live?
  • Where will my siblings live?
  • Will I have to move?
  • Will I have to change schools?
  • Will I have two houses and two bedrooms?
  • Where will my stuff go?
  • Do my friends know?
  • What can/should I tell them?
  • Will everyone else know?
  • Is this my fault?
  • Are you mad at me?
  • Where will he/she live?
  • When will I see him/her?
  • Can I stay over?
  • Will I have my own room there?
  • Can I leave some of my stuff there?
  • Will I have any friends there?
  • Can I still see my old friends when I’m there?
  • Will he/she drive me to see my friends?
  • Will he/she still come to my…(sporting events)
  • Will we still be close?
  • Will he/she still love me?

As parents, there is a lot you can do to prepare your children for these changes. As you talk together about how to approach the issue, consider speaking with an attorney who has experience in divorce law. Contact a Family Law Attorney Today Since 1993, the law office of Ronald L. Kossack have helped parents to reach important decisions regarding the upbringing of their children. If you and your spouse are unable to agree on decision making authority (custody) or parenting time, the court will need to make a determination based on your child’s best interests. During contested hearings, we may hire mental health professionals and parenting coordinators, if necessary, to build and strengthen your case for child custody. We will do all we can to work toward a positive result for you. To speak with a Tempe child custody lawyer contact us online or by calling 480-345-2652.