If there are children involved in a divorce, the divorce process can be more complicated and a co-parenting agreement will have to be created. In today’s blog post, we’re sharing some tips for successful co-parenting that you can implement both during the divorce process and as you work together with your ex to raise your child. Continue reading to learn more, and if you’re in need of a divorce lawyer or legal help in another area of family law, contact The Law Office of Ronald Kossack in Tempe.
What Does It Mean To Co-Parent?
Even if you’re no longer married or coupled, if there is a child involved, you’re working with your ex to help your child grow and thrive. Think of co-parenting as making decisions together in the best interest of the child. While co-parenting can be extremely difficult, you do need to work together on behalf of the child. Of course, co-parenting is easier said than done, and every co-parenting situation is unique, but here are a few tips from the Law Office of Ronald Kossack to help you navigate the post-divorce waters.
Create A Co-Parenting Plan
A good co-parenting plan sets the foundation for effective, cooperative parenting. It’s important to maintain a unified front when raising your children, and a good plan can help you make decisions down the road. A co-parenting plan should be tailored to meet your unique needs and the characteristics of your family, and it can be modified as the child(ren) grow(s) older.
Creating a plan together during the divorce process is an important part of moving from a partnership into a co-parenting agreement. There is no “typical divorce” or “magic formula” for ensuring a smooth divorce and successful co-parenting, but if you work together and put the child’s best interests first, you’re more likely to create a pln that works for you, your partner ,and the children involved.
Support The Other Parent’s Relationship With The Child
No matter what type of parenting agreement you have, a child does have a right to a relationship with both parents, and the idea of co-parenting is to maximize the time that your children can spend with each of their parents. It can be hard to be at your best with your child when you’re dealing with a co-parent who isn’t supportive of the parenting arrangement or the choices being made.
While there are bound to be disagreements, it’s important to support each other through the process as best you can. That means keeping the parenting schedule, but trying to be flexible and accommodating wherever possible. If there is a disagreement or conflict, work to resolve it apart from the child.
Do not undermine or speak badly about the other parent and convey an attitude of respect towards them while you are around your child. Ongoing conflict can hurt your child, especially if they see themselves as in the middle of the fight between their two parents. Even if you are in intense conflict with your co-parent, remember what matters most: your child and their relationship with both parents. Although it might be very difficult, remember the love you used to have for the other person. Try to find even the smallest thing to be grateful for them and think about how they can improve your child’s life.
Communicate Honestly And Respectfully
Co-parenting is hard, but being able to communicate honestly and in a respectful way will help you solve issues. Communication can be challenging, but it’s important for both parents to commit themselves to the work of communicating and working together. A divorce lawyer or mediator can help at the beginning of this process to help develop a plan, and this will help set the foundation for communication. But you need to commit to these practices throughout the entire process of co-parenting and be willing to adjust how you communicate when it’s no longer working.
Maintain Your Child’s Community
While their home life has radically changed after a divorce, it’s important to try to maintain as much regularity in other areas of the child’s life, such as their community and relationships with other family members, friends, and activities. If possible, try to keep the child in the same neighborhood and school and make sure that you are keeping a routine and connection with other people in your child’s life, despite the divorce or potentially strained relationship with your co-parent.
Take Care Of Yourself
Divorce and co-parenting is stressful — remember to make your health a priority. Taking care of yourself, especially when you’re a parent, can be put on the back burner, but remember that if you’re not taking care of yourself, you won’t be able to take care of your child. Prioritize your own physical, emotional, and mental health. Divorce and other family law matters are taxing, but the goal is to find a balance that not only works, but helps everyone involved to thrive.
The Law Office Of Ronald Kossack – Family Law Tempe
If you are facing a family law issue in Tempe, it’s important to have an experienced attorney at your side. Ronald Kossack is proud to serve clients in Tempe, Phoenix, Mesa, Chandler, Gilbert, Ahwatukee, and the surrounding areas. If you’re in need of a divorce lawyer or are considering going through the divorce mediation process, we provide free consultation. We believe that everyone should have the burden of legalities of divorce removed so that they can focus on what matters — their family. Contact us today to get started.