For better and worse, we live in a world that is totally saturated in social media. There are benefits to this, of course, as it creates a world that is more interconnected than any point in human history and helps information and movements spread at lightning speed. At the same time, social media (and the internet broadly) is a tool; and as it is with any tool, it can be used for both good and bad. Social media can be a potentially harmful tool during difficult moments in one’s life, such as during a divorce.
In today’s blog, we want to look at the role that social media can play during a divorce. It’s important to keep some things in mind. Here at The Law Office of Ronald Kossack, you can work with a trusted divorce lawyer who has seen how social media can be used in divorce cases (including making a divorce more difficult). These are relatively new issues in the world of divorce law, and they’re not always things that people think about as they’re going through such a difficult time in their lives. With that in mind, let’s take a look at some important aspects of social media to consider during and after a divorce. After reading today’s blog, if you’re in need of a trusted divorce lawyer in the Tempe area, be sure to reach out to The Law Office of Ronald Kossack. You can schedule a free consultation today.
Social Media Can Cause Unneeded Strife
It can be tempting to vent your pain or frustration over social media. It’s an understandable urge. But doing so during a divorce can make an already difficult situation that much harder. It can cause feelings to get hurt and tempers to flare. It’s best to limit your thoughts to in-person discussions.
What might seem like a cathartic, one-off statement made on social media could potentially result in your ex-husband or wife wanting to retaliate, including taking action in court. Retaliation could look like fighting for increased custody over your children, less money in spousal support, or more arguments over asset and property division. That’s the last thing anyone needs during the divorce process.
Social Media Can Provide Evidence
It’s not uncommon for divorce lawyers to consult social media to find evidence during divorce proceedings. This may very well include your ex’s divorce lawyers. There are many ways that social media can provide evidence during divorce proceedings. Be sure to stay informed. Social media evidence can be used to show the following information (and potentially more):
- Documented communication – messages, posts, etc.
- Evidence of time and place – check-ins and posts can show activities and locations on certain dates at specific times
- Evidence of actions – posts or photos showing specific actions
- Evidence of who a person spends time with – photos or posts tagged with others
- A person’s state of mind – comments or posts expressing feelings
- Proof of spending or income – posts about vacations, activities, and purchases
There are many examples of how this could potentially play out. Evidence like that mentioned above could be used in everything from child support to alimony and many things in between. Evidence found on social media can complicate things. Accordingly, it’s not only advisable to refrain from making inflammatory posts during the divorce proceedings, it can be a good idea to take the following further steps.
Consider Deactivating Your Social Media Accounts
Yes, it’s important that you don’t attack your ex on social media. But, there may exist evidence that could harm your case that is already on your existing social media accounts. This is why it might be a good idea to temporarily deactivate your accounts. Some people think that simply blocking their ex will be enough. But oftentimes there are mutual friends who might still have access to your account and provide evidence that could be harmful to your case. On top of that, there might be some psychological and emotional benefits from steering clear of social media during such a difficult time.
We understand that it can be a lot to ask of people to completely disengage and deactivate their social media. As mentioned above, social media has become a ubiquitous element of our everyday lives. And social media can be an important means for accessing support. If you’re not comfortable with deactivating, then there are at least some important steps you can take to prevent any unnecessary fallout.
Be Mindful Of What You Post
This should be clear by now, but you want to avoid any sort of rants or outbursts that can be used against you in child custody hearings, alimony decisions, etc. This is especially true if it is a contested divorce. You also should not post anything that could give away finances, love interests, state of mind, etc.
Update Privacy Settings
In addition to being mindful of what you’re posting on your social media, you will also want to ensure that you’ve updated all of your privacy settings. You can go in and make it so that your social media is on lockdown, only able to be seen by the select few people of your choice. This will prevent the gathering of evidence by mutual friends or your ex’s divorce lawyers.
Meet With a Divorce Lawyer in Tempe Today
The divorce process can be long and emotional, but The Law Office of Ronald Kossack can help. Custody, child support, alimony, property and asset division, and more are all vital aspects of a divorce that require careful, nuanced attention, expertise, and experience. As an expert divorce lawyer, Mr. Kossack can offer all of that and more. Whether you have questions about social media and divorce or you are just beginning the search for legal services, we are confident we are the law firm for you. Contact us in Tempe today to meet with a family lawyer regarding your upcoming divorce.