It Can be Harmful to be Split Up

If one parent decides to move to another state or city and there are two children, why should the parent who stays (or the parent who leaves for that matter) get to have physical custody over both of the children when one could live with the father and one could live with the mother? While this possibly makes sense (fair-wise) for the parents, it does not always work out that way for the children. Split custody is very uncommon because splitting up children, especially those who have been through a stressful divorce, harms their emotional, physical, and educational development. It is true that for young children, being away from either parent for more than a few days at a time is harmful, according to the American Coalition for Fathers and Children. Add to this the idea of being away from a sibling, who is one of the child’s only constants throughout their life, and it becomes more apparent why split custody can be a stressful situation.

When Siblings Have a Toxic Relationship

The only times that split custody is considered by the court is when the two children have a violent or abusive relationship. Violent relationships are somewhat common amongst siblings, in fact. A study published in the Journal of Child Maltreatment found that 35 percent of children had been “hit or attacked” by one of their siblings within the past 12 months, as reported by the New York Times. However, for split custody, there must be evidence of a truly violent or even dangerous sibling relationship, not just normal roughhousing or the odd child fight.

Two Types of Split Custody

The constant variable between the two types of split custody is that the two separated children never live with each other. In the first type of split custody, each child lives with one parent full time. The other type of split custody calls for rotation between the two parents and the two children, sometimes for equal amounts of time. Child A lives with Parent B for two months, then lives with Parent A for two months, while Child B lives with Parent A during that time. This rotation allows both parents to spend equal time with their two (or more) children, while keeping the children separated.

Contact a Phoenix Child Custody Attorney Today

When two or more siblings do not get along together, and the poor relationship is more than just older versus younger sibling rivalry, the two children may essentially cut ties and live with their separated parents. Split custody is a somewhat rare parenting plan for the obvious reason that splitting up siblings is usually not in their best interest. To find out more about this process, it is necessary to consult with an experienced Phoenix lawyer. Contact the Law Office of Ronald L. Kossack to schedule an appointment today.