In our previous blog post, we began exploring a variety of popular myths that have developed around divorce. The divorce lawyers at The Law Office of Ronald Kossack understand how stressful and overwhelming it can be to get a divorce, so our hope is that clearing up some of these myths will be useful in making the whole process a bit more manageable. We are here to help in many other ways. Not only do we provide representation in Tempe and many other areas of Arizona, but also offer free consultations. Don’t try to take on the stress of divorce on your own. Contact us today.

In the meantime, let’s continue our series on divorce myths. First, a quick recap. The myths we looked at last time included:

  1. Visitation Can Be Denied If Ex Doesn’t Pay Child Support
  2. You Can Only Get Divorced In The State You Were Married
  3. Most Divorces Take Place In Reno Or Vegas
  4. Children Get To Choose Who They Live With
  5. Having Children Will Prevent Divorce

Each one of these myths are widely believed and tends to be perpetuated in the pop culture. Nonetheless, they are either exaggerations or complete fabrications. On that note, let’s take a look at some more of these persistent myths.

Myth #6 The Divorce Rate Is Rapidly Growing

This is a myth that we hear all the time. The idea is that the sanctity of marriage has been lost on younger generations. This is simply untrue. In fact, divorce rates today are actually lower than they were in the 1970s, ‘80s, and ‘90s. Over time, the important trend to take notice of is that major worldwide events are what have the largest effect on both marriage and divorce rates.

Rather than divorce being the result of deteriorating moral character or a lack of commitment in relationships, divorce rates spike after wartime. The sharpest spike in divorce rates in American history came directly after the end of World War II. Unsurprisingly, there was also a sharp spike in marriage directly before the war. This holds true for other wars throughout our country’s history. In short, divorce rates are not growing with each passing year, nor are younger generations abandoning any sense of commitment. Indeed, it’s thanks to younger generations that the US divorce rate began falling in the early 1990s and has since continued on an overall downward trend. According to the World Economic Forum, in 1992, there were 4.8 divorces per 1,000 population. By 2016, this had dropped to 3.2. 

Myth #7 Divorce Always Leads To Big Fights And Battles

Divorce is certainly a stressful experience, regardless of how amicable both parties might be. Regardless, it is certainly the case that parties can be amicable! Despite what movies and stereotypes will tell you, it is possible to have a divorce without running into huge legal battles over children or belongings. Yes, divorce can be a source of acrimony and hostility — but it need not be. There are collaborative divorces that can minimize the battles and maximize the communication and compromise.

Divorce mediation is an effective way to help with this. Mediation allows for a divorce lawyer to help communicate your needs. Ultimately, this speaks to the importance of a trustworthy divorce lawyer (but more about that later). The Law Office of Ronald Kossack can assist in making a divorce as stress-free as possible.

Myth #8 Mothers Are Always Awarded Custody

We come across this myth far too often. It’s surprising that this myth still holds the sway that it does, but it is persistent. This myth likely resulted from the fact that courts did tend to favor mothers for a long while — a tendency that resulted from sexist stereotypes about natural dispositions for caretaking. 

However, these days, courts will attempt to control for these biases and take into consideration a wide range of factors when deciding the distribution of custody, including the child’s age, health, relationship with each parent, history of family violence, etc. What courts will be attending to more than anything is the best interests of the child — regardless of the gender of the parents. 

Myth #9 Marriage Or Divorce Are The Only Options

When marriages hit a rough patch, we’ve been fed the myth that there are only two options: you can either push through or get a divorce. This is a false dichotomy. There are other options for you when things get tough in a relationship. For instance, there is the option for a legal separation. A legal separation is different from a divorce because the marriage remains technically intact. However, a legal separation offers a couple the opportunity to live apart from each other, giving them time to breathe and figure things out on their own terms. 

On top of that, there are certain instances where annulment could be an option. It’s a good idea to explore all of your options with an expert divorce lawyer. Speaking of which

Myth #10: You’ll Be Better Off Without A Divorce Lawyer

It can be tempting to try to navigate your divorce without the help of an experienced divorce lawyer. However, there are a lot of complexities around divorce that can make things tricky — and, in the end, more expensive. There are situations where a divorce might be perfectly amicable while also not involving any sort of major assets or child custody issues. These situations are possible, but even then there can be a lot of red tape. The up-front costs of an experienced divorce lawyer will prove to be well worth it in the long-run. 

Just remember that a divorce lawyer can walk you through the entire divorce process — from the moment you file for divorce until the moment you reach a divorce settlement. Throughout the Phoenix, Scottsdale, Chandler, Mesa, and Tempe areas, you can rely on The Law Office of Ronald Kossack. Contact our law firm today for a free initial consultation.